One of the themes in many of the mini-dramas is how the husband is often portrayed as a simp. A simp is a husband who kowtows to his wife in all things. In this particular drama the theme is taken to extreme. The wife a rich heiress and her and her daughter have a double life. They put the poor working husband through massive degrading tasks simply to toy with him for the pleasure of her and her rich friends. The wife and daughter fake the need for life saving surgery and in order to raise money he sells one of his kidneys.
Still believing his wife and daughter need money for their lifesaving surgery, he immediately tries to raise some more money after donating a kidney and winds up being a server at a party with rich young clientele. His wife and daughter are at the party but, they don't recognize him because he is wearing a mask. They and other partiers put him severe degrading tasks that border on torture. It's a very difficult scene for me to watch and I usually skip through the scene by advancing the cursor below Just the thought of it makes me clamp down on my ribs and start to bend. The scene is absurd from a logical position but that does not seem to matter on how I react. The only way I can counteract the flexion pattern is to take a break and get up and walk around. Only when my thoughts are separated from the drama can I start to feel what I am doing and let it go to some extent.
I have been a simp most of my marriage, but it was a choice I made. A good portion of it was because I didn't want to stand up for myself, so I acquiesced to the status quo. Because of my wife's illness I have a lot more power in the relationship now but that does not make it better for either of us. Did I make the wrong choice in bending to my wife's will? I believe to some extent yes and some extent no. It's not that I didn't get my way many times during our marriage, but it was at the cost of emotionally separating ourselves. Hopefully by being able to interrupt the caving in physically I can make better choices at least for myself. My physical reaction to any stressor seems to have a direct correlation on how I live my life.
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